The pod is BACK! :D I took a hiatus from recording my podcast The Rules Are Made Up back in September. I had too much going on, was stressed AF and something had to give... I go a bit more into why in this episode and how I had created some fucked up rules for podcasting I was trying to follow and how that ultimately led me to the hiatus (hello unrealistic expectations!). I also share some nudges in case you need them to reflect on your own experiences and how you can set some more realistic expectations so you can keep doing the thing (whatever it is), but on YOUR terms and at YOUR pace! Head to the link in my bio to tune in or find it wherever you listen to podcasts 🎧 #therulesaremadeup #podcasting #getcurious #gentlenudges #chiefnudgeofficer #onlinecoach #notyourtypicalmindfulnesscoach #innerlevelcoaching

I was asked by someone recently what my big scary dream is. I don’t actually think it’s scary to me anymore but it is big and a bit out there based on what I’m currently doing… It’s to build my own hybrid therapy/coaching practice, where I can straddle the very important hard line I currently need to draw between coaching and therapy. As much as I want to help others grow and develop, I want to be able to fully support the human in front of me depending on what’s going on. In order to do that, I need to complete my current qualification (which I will do by the end of 2024) and tack on a few more years of postgrad study and internships. I turned 37 a few months ago so by the time I can make this dream a reality, I'll be in my 40s. You may go “ok so what Neens?” That’s a great point - because so what? It’s what I want to do and it’s what lights my soul on fire - like when I talk to others about it I get all mushy and butterflies 🤓 But you know what’s a bit fucked? That part of me is trying to discount this dream because it’s ‘too late’. Like wtf do I think I’m doing, I’m almost 40. That doubt doesn’t last long though… and then I get ragey. Because first of all, how did we get to the point of calling our thirties late? Secondly, who decided we should have one career AND we need to choose what it is as early as possible? That’s a rhetorical question btw (and the answer is the patriarchy). Btw this isn’t directed at anyone who figured out what they wanted to do earlier in life - I think that’s awesome! This IS directed at the fucked up ways we internalise what (western) society tells us when it comes to careers and paths we’re meant to follow. Here’s to doing the thing, whether you’re 25 or 38 or 47. Here’s to switching careers a bunch and gaining skills along the way! Here’s to dreaming big and making shit happen - on your terms and your timeline. #challengethenarrative #therulesaremadeup #getcurious #notyourtypicalmindfulnesscoach #onlinecoach #innerlevelcoaching

If I could wave a magic wand and have everyone in the world understand one thing, this be would be a top contender. We can get so caught up in wanting to do things perfectly that we put ourselves in a place where we end up not doing anything at all. The perfect meal prep, nutrition plan or business plan means jack shit if you can’t actually implement it because your expectations are too high. Don’t get it twisted - nothing wrong with having expectations of yourself and goals to achieve but they need to be realistic and compassionate, taking into account where YOU are and where YOU want to be. Not just a copy + paste from something you’ve seen other people do (in your real life circle or on the interwebs). So for the rest of this week - can you challenge yourself a bit by asking yourself these questions: 🤔 Where can you lower the barrier? 🤔 Where can you figure out what ok or good enough looks like to get something done instead of chasing perfection and not doing anything? 🤔 How can you challenge your own expectations of what a perfect workout/meal/workday looks like and come up with a good enough version, in case life gets lifey? 🤔 Where can you show yourself compassion and remind yourself that good enough is just that, good enough - because you still showed up for yourself, you still got shit done. Just maybe not in the way you had envisioned in your head… Those also happen to be the types of questions I ask my 1:1 clients - so if you need someone prompting you and encouraging you to think about something differently, check the link in my bio for more info and to apply 🤓 #doneandperfectarenotthesamething #dontbeadicktoyourself #getcurious #screwtheshoulds #notyourtypicalmindfulnesscoach #innerlevelcoaching